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Forum Name: Male Sexual Disorders

Question: I have never really masturbated...never felt the need...


 please_help_doubt - Wed Dec 13, 2006 2:56 am

I am a 20 yr old male. I generally have a tendency to think i am losing my sexual desire or never having felt it as strongly as others do.

1)Although most of my friends masturbate I have never done it. I occasionally do have wet dreams.
Although erection does happen and I like holding and rubbing it against the bed (if that qualifies as masturbation) I have never achieved or felt the climax i.e. ejaculation (except maybe in my dreams!!), neither have i felt the desire to go uptil that point.
Even after having my penis erected for long by fantasizing about someone i generally go and take a pee instead.

2)The other thing that bothers me is earlier i used to have a lot of fantasies and had my penis erected every night(although done nothing with it!!). These days the fantasizing has reduced.
I also don't get stimulated by porn. However recently a girl came close and I did get it erected. So then I wonder y can't porn stimulate me.

3) This is one more thing. Does too much working, studying or practising concentration techniques, doing yoga, getting devotional about god and stuff make you lose your sexual desire?? This worry acts as a major hindrance because I really hold myself back in following my dreams towards success as I think I will lose completly any sexual desire that I have if I concentrate on studies or other things.
Is something wrong with me???
Please help me if anyone understands my nature of problem and do answer each of my query...
Thanks, Shankar
 Dr. Tamer Fouad - Wed Dec 13, 2006 5:28 am

User avatar Hello,

Lack of sex drive (lack of libido) is extremely common in women – but quite rare in men.

The causes can be either physical or psychological. Physical causes include drug abuse, alcoholism, some medications such as some antidepressants, endocrine problems, obesity, chronic diseases such as renal failure, diabetes and liver failure.

On the other hand depression, anxiety, stress and overwork in addition to marital or relationship problems can all affect libido psychologically.

You need an evaluation to make sure you do not have any of the physical causes, including hormonal problems. If that is the case then psychological causes including overwork should be considered.

Many people work hard and achieve academic success without it affecting their sex drive.

Some people have strong religious, cultural or moral objections to the practice. For those who hold these values, choosing not to masturbate is normal, too. There is nothing weird, odd, or unhealthy about this choice.

Please call on your doctor for an appointment.

Best regards,

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