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Forum Name: Male Sexual Disorders

Question: Fiance has no sex drive

 marydueck07 - Tue Jan 01, 2008 7:39 pm

My fiance and I have been living together for six months. At first he didn't want sex because he couldn't find a job. He said he felt he did'nt deserve it. Once he found a job we had sex only two or three times. Then he said he doesn't have the desire and he doesn't know why. He Says the thought of sex disgusts him. He has slightly high blood pressure and I just found out that he has had some traumatic experiences in his life, long before he met me.(not sexual) He says he loves me and wants to marry me but doesn't want sex till he can fix his problem. I have been supportive but want to know what else if anything I can do to help. We are both 36 yrs old.
 Debbie Miller, RN - Wed Jan 02, 2008 4:54 pm

User avatar Hello,
There is a good chance he has psychological issues and could benefit from counseling. You might consider a reputable sex therapist, but he should also have an evaluation by a medical doctor to rule out any physical causes. There may be some lack of testosterone that might be treated with medication. It is possible there are some self-punishing issues going on but the therapist can be helpful here too.

The best way you can support him is to assure him of your love and concern, show respect and appreciation to him and be patient.

Good luck.

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