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Forum Name: Male Sexual Disorders

Question: sexual doubts


 para20042006 - Wed May 18, 2005 4:23 am

Hello......
i am parasuram working as software professional. my problem is what is masturbation. within a week three times i'm doing. is it good for health or not. i want to know some basics of sex education both in male and female.

if u have any books suggest me prefarably if it is in web it is good.
if its is in tamil language itr is good since if u study in own mother tongue u can better understand
please tell me whether girls r doing mastubation also. because by next year i m going to get married. so if i understand things then i can approach my wife esaily for sex and have a good , satisfied sex.
 Feathers - Wed May 18, 2005 5:00 am

Hi there,

Yes, most young women also masturbate, just as young men do. It is not harmful to
your health. Different cultures and different social groups have a broad range of
reactions to it, and so many people take these attitudes with them into full adulthood
and into marriages and relationships. The key is to be aware of how a person's culture
may affect his attitudes and those of his partner or spouse. In your case, ifyou are
originating from an East Indian culture, you may find a certain degree of modesty or
even insecurity on your wife's part at the beginning of your marriage. She may have
been taught that any kind of sex, including masturbation, is something that a woman
should hide, even after she is married. Therefore, you can begin to help her relax
into a happy and comfortable physical relationship after marriage by keeping these
point s in mind:
1.) You can reassure her that it is normal for her to want to seek pleasure and to
find ways to share her pleasure with you. Let her know, in other words, that
her pleasure matters as much as yours does.

2.) You can remind her that affection and caring go along with passion and that
therefore she need not feel guilty about sex.

3.) You can let her know how much you look forward to having a baby or babies with
her, and of course they are the happy result of sex!

4.) You can point out all of her most beautiful features and best traits, physical
and personality-wise, and let her know you will take time to relax with her in
the bedroom and not be in a "hurry."

5.) Finally, you can ask her where and how she likes to be touched and keep
asking her until she overcomes her shyness, if she seems shy or nervous.
Communication is so important!

Good Luck to you! I am sorry that I do not know what books in your city to
suggest,; however, one of the Indian doctors who frequents this site probably
will be able to suggest something.

Best Wishes,
Lisa, lisashetler@yahoo.com
 para20042006 - Sat May 21, 2005 1:06 pm

Hello,

thank u for replying for my earlier question.
i have following problem........

i masturbate daily 2 times. is it good for health.

is it natural process. should i have to do it?.
some people say that is is natural phenomena and even if i did not
do that manually it automatically ejects during night time.

my doubt is wheter doing that is exercise.
because i am feeling guilty whenever i do that .
the reason is lack of sex education.
so please suggest any web bsaed books that will clearly explains sex.


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